Matilda, I was reading the GAL section in DB, and was intrigued by a question. The question was, How would you spend your time if you didn't have marital problems to focus on?
I realized that this is the 180 I need to make. I've been focused on DB, and trying to find the right approach to make my W happy. The circumstances now call for me to invest more energy into cultivating my own interests and connections.
I've been out in the world as a married person. I want to present myself as an individual. I won't date if approached, but I'm going to function as a single person without a partner. The goal is friendship and connection, not romance. I wouldn't put someone into my marital problems.
I went out to practice dancing last night at a venue. A lady dancer was friendly to me and has asked me to meet her on Sunday night, and will introduce me to her friends.
She's a good dancer, and is willing to let me practice intermediate moves, that I used to practice with my W. After a couple tries, she is able to get the move. We danced several times.
I'm not going to pursue my W at this time. I'm in support of a D.
I'm willing to be roommates for months while she works on preparing for her single life. I want this to be an amicable D, so patience and cooperation are needed.
I don't think the situation will stay like this indefinitely. She's eager to move forward to find a new R.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
