Seperated and Not Talking

[Uncool Cat]

My wife and I separated about a month ago. She said she didn't love me anymore. I guess she's a WAW - ironically I'm the one who had to move out. I'm on red alert trying to do everything I can to save the marriage. I made some initial mistakes, but two weeks ago I signed up for coaching and started listening to the Michele's CDs and reading the books.

I haven't put any pressure on my wife (at least I hope not). I keep our boys (8 and 5) for her once a week when she goes to night school. When I do, I do the best job I can with the boys. Then once they are in bed, I work like a madman around the house. Doing as many things as possible: dishes, clothes, etc. When she comes home. I do my very best to act upbeat, ask her how school went, and then I say goodbye and leave.

She did thank me the last time I did this. I chaulked that up as a positive.

What frustrates me is that she doesn't really talk to me about anything. We discuss when I will pick up the boys, how long I will keep them etc. She's cordial, but that's it. She's not nice, mean or anything. It's like she's become this robot. I have been erased.

I don't know how to do a 180 here. I know not to pressure her. I know not to say I love you. I try to act happy. I'm just frustrated. Many (I know not all) of the techniques Michele suggests do involve having a conversation.

I just don't know what to do.