WAW Affair Confirmed - Advice?

[DCBHM]

As to why I'm not extremely angry at her, W was the sweetest, nicest, etc. person in the world until having D(1). Her father died, and she shed maybe a single tear the entire time through the funeral, etc. She was always the type of person to wear her heart on her sleeve, and to see her reacting without emotion was hurtful then.

Then she got mixed up with OM, basically blamed everything in the world on me, and in some respects, although she never said it, it felt like she blamed her father's death on me.

Of course I rolled along oblivious to everything that was right in front of me, and even watched D(1) so she could go hang out next door. I basically enabled it. The "bomb" came about when I actually confronted her after seeing him sneaking out the back of the house. All of a sudden she was caught and wanted to exit.

I guess she figured the D talk would scare me, but every time she said something more outrageous I'd up the ante myself. So we ended up in court a lot quicker than we would have if I'd started backing off initially.

Now that she knows I've got evidence, all the accusations, etc. are flying like crazy. I'm pulling back and detaching and haven't really thought about too much of the emotional angle today. I'm still waking at odd hours of the night, and I've lost a ton of weight, but I look healthier now than I did at the beginning.

Not only did I have to deal with the whirlwind of emotions, I was just starting a new semester of night classes, had to find a short notice babysitter, had to change my whole schedule/routine, etc.

I do love who she was. I don't love who she is. I guess I'm mourning the wife I lost... I'm sticking to DB principles regardless, because if there is any hope whatsoever it is LRT/GAL/etc.

I saw her this morning when I was leaving from seeing D(1). She didn't even look at me, just stared down. I'm on day 9 of LRT/Dim and she hasn't initiated much more than usual... just the additional crap on text messages.

Trying not to get caught up in analyzing the little details. Just going to wait it out and see what things look like in a few months.

I will stay faithful to my M regardless of what she's doing. Although, I haven't worn my wedding ring since... maybe 7 days ago. I wore it for a few days, then took it off. One of those things...

Anyway, I'm drifting. Let me know if any of you have advice.