Flynn, S16 tells it like it is. I don't think he feels like he has to step into our relationship. He is just not afraid to voice his feelings. He did this type stuff even before the A, so it's nothing new to him. Maybe he does this stuff because every time he's tried to talk to W about how he feels she changes the subject or walks away. Maybe he feels like this is the only time he can get what he wants to say out.
I do think he tries to show W what she'll be missing if we split up. I also think he feels like she doesn't love him because if she did, why would she do what she did? I constantly reassure him that his mother loves him despite what she did. That what she did has nothing to do with him or his brother or even me. But he's 16 so he just doesn't get that he's not somehow the cause of it.
I also know that he realizes that he can say things to her and she'll listen to him where she won't listen to me.
It's not like I put him up to this stuff. He has always just spoke his mind, and it's kind of refreshing.....
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.