Last night was bittersweet. It was DD17's last game to cheer at. On one hand it will be so nice to not have to go to all of the games anymore, but it's sad on the other hand because it means she will be graduating soon. Wow, they grow up fast!
The game was out of town, over an hour away. H came by and got me. An unusual oppurtunity came up to get some truth darts out.
H asked me who a player was. I said, "His name is Evan. His father is married to Chase's (Chase is good friend of DD20) mother. Chase's mother cheated on his dad with Evan's dad. Chase cannot stand his stepfather because he is the one that his mother cheated with and broke up the family. Chase also has very little to do with his mother. That's why Chase chose to move in with his Dad in the 6th grade." H did not say anything about the story other than asking if Evan's dad was at the game. I didn't show any emotion when I told this story. Just said it in a matter of fact way.
I was glad to be able to give him a true life example of how adultery can ruin the parent/child relationship without even having to refer to our own situation.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Strange weather, isn't it? We actually got snow Saturday night when it had been up to 70's during the week! There was only a little accumulation on the cars and grass. When you don't get snow often, it is pretty to look at.
I know all my nothern friends are saying that you will gladly send more snow our way. That's okay, you can keep it.
Saturday night some of our friends invited us over for a small dinner party. There were 3 couples in all. I had a really nice time. Funny thing is, that I talked to everyone else more than H. He seemed pretty reserved. Even when the host and I were discussing some people from high school H didn't say anything. The W of the host said, "Didn't you go to the same HS as them?"
It's funny how the WAS seem to find so many faults with the LBS. It's nice to go somewhere and be appreciated by others, to know that they enjoy your company.
H dropped me off at my house. He did not come in. DD17 had some of her teammates from her dance squad over. They were making up the tryout dance for the girls that are getting ready to try out for team. I guess he didn't want to feel awkward around the girls. Sad, isn't it? Oh well, he's the one missing out. I will never have any regrets that I was there for my girls.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hi Yoyo, just checking in. Sorry your D's games have stopped. See nothing too much is changed in sitch. Have you thought anymore about detaching H seems like he will go this way forever. He needs to be pushed off that fence!
Today was tough, had to respond to H's D papers. We just responded with adultery -- that was it, to drag it out.
take care
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Hi Everyone, Thanks for stopping by and checking on me. My computer at work has been down for the past two days! I couldn't even log into the system!
Well, I have better news concerning H. He has been very attentive since Monday night. I had a school meeting right after school and then I had civic meeting that night. DD17 went to H's office after school to get money for an overnight school conference she was going to Tues.-Thurs. When DD went to his office and got the money he said he would come by the house later to tell her bye. When I got home DD20 called me. We talked a while. She said Dad wanted to know who she was talking to. She told him it was me. It wasn't long after I got off the phone with her that he called me. He told me he had come by while I was gone to the meeting and didn't know I had a meeting. We talked a while and then got off of the phone. About 20 minutes later he called and said he was on his way over to see me. He was already half way there when he called me.
Yesterday I went to dinner with a friend, while I was with her, H called. It was loud in there so I said I would call him later. I called him later and he laying on the couch half asleep. He said he was going to come over later. I waited about an hour and called asked where he was. I could tell I woke him up. We talked a little while and then I told him I'd let him go back to sleep. He said No, I'm coming to see you.
Today on my break I had to go fax some papers. When I got back I noticed I had a missed call from him at 11:30. this was about 12:00. I called him and he said he had called to see if I wanted to go to lunch with him. My goodness, this is the best he has acted in a long time!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Karen, I think recently I have conveyed to him that he must start treating me better or I will walk. I think he no longer thinks that I'm weak and can't make it without him. Yes, it's taken me a while to get there, longer than most, but I think he sees it.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I love you, lady -- and I really don't want to sound like a broken record or be that cold splash of water -- but I've got to ask you this: What has your H done so far to get the OW out of his life?
It's great and all that he's again treating you nicely, but it's the answer to this one question that should weigh on your mind more than anything else.
