me: I'm worried that we're going to get comfortable in this state of nicey-nice and not continue progressing.
H: No we won't. Don't worry.
me: Doing nothing but staying in this nice place isn't going to get us further. I want real passion and connection with you. I want to get to a place where we can't stand not touching each other. I want to do things like sneak into the other room for a naughty moment while the baby is in his crib.
H: (surprised smile) That's just wrong. (smile) We will get there. Don't worry.
me: How are you thinking we will get there from here?
H: With consistent, small steps. I'm taking steps, and little by little we'll get there.
me: How do you know that?
H: I just do. We will. What other answer do you want?
me: Something more specific, I guess.
H: I can't give that to you right now. Can I start reading that book [PM] now? Are you done with it?
me: Sure!
Then, we went to bed and he woke up at 3am violently ill and has been all night and all morning. I'm trying to keep a continuous curtain of Lysol between H and the baby.
I'm not sure how else I could have "pushed" in our conversation. I felt "OK" about our talk, but not ecstatic. Gotta give him a chance to get there on his own, right?
Lucky
You have a great hubby. He is doing well. Check your email. Do what feels right to you love. It is ok to not feel ecstatic , trust your feelings Lucky. The both of you are doing very well, IMHO. He wants to read PM? I m jumping up and down for you? What a blessing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!~~~~~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!~~~~~~~~!~!~!~! Take care, Ali
Do what feels right to you love.
