Hi s4h....I have wondered what happened to you, but have been praying for you in your absence.
Sounds like things are moving toward a D. As for the child support versus spousal support, in many states, there is a formula that calculates child support and if that formula determines she owes you child support, then you cannot make any other agreement than that. So she may not have any choice in the matter. As I have told you since the beginning, you need to just bite the bullet and retain a lawyer.
Do you remember that I told you about my cousin who is in your area? Well she is basically still in limbo, too. I did forward that name of the attorney you gave me to her and she tried to contact them about her case. Unfortunately, because of her specific issues on her case, she didn't feel they were a good fit for her so she didn't retain them, and that means she is still without an L. Time seems to drag under those conditions, but once you do retain an L things finally start to happen.
I'm very sad for your sitch, hun, but I know you are going to be just fine after all the dust settles. Well, maybe "fine" is not the right word, but I know you know what I mean. You will still be YOU and you will still have your girls, and in that sense, it is even more than simply "fine".
