Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[hopefulinEG]

I entered a lottery pool at work yesterday (220M) and this morning I said jokingly that we are gonna win the lottery tonight.

W - "Since were still married I would get half".
Me - "And I wouldn't care at all anymore."
W - "Yeah you would kick my a$$ out."
Me - "You said it not me."
W - "Andy thinks I'm crazy"
Me - "For what still living here"
W - "Yeah, She says I should move out for 6 months the move back
in. That is what jess did when they broke up and then she
moved back in"
Me - "And then they were friends?".
W - "Yeah, So she thinks I should move out so we can be on our
own and get space from all this. And then move back in"
Me - "And that would accomplish what ? Then we would be friends?"
W - "Yes"
Me - "No, I don't think that is not something I want."

The whole conversation was very nice and even joking for the first part. After I said the last line I went about my business finishing up getting the kids ready.

So I reinforced that just overlooking all this and become good friends is not one of my goals. She knows I want to reconcile but I don't want her to think that she gets to have her cake and eat it too. She doesn't get to just leave me and treat me like crap and then have me be her friend. If she keeps going with this she will not have me in her life any more that absolutely necessary for the kids.