You asked what are you suppose to do if she's looking at you with sadness/anger. You probably won't be able to do anything, but at least you may know the conflict in her head perhaps. Maybe catching her eyes and giving her a warm smile would be all you need to do as she works through her emotions in her head. DOn't underestimate or trivialize the power of her feelings. NOt that you have....just a reminder.
The wedding. She may have wanted to "look good" at the event and look all wonderfully married? Or, she really felt those things, wanted those things, and then later didn't want to have sex so didn't want to continue or you would have wanted to? I would have asked about the hand brush off. Remember, you need to call her on those kinds of things.
The shoulder rubbing by the stove. I hate to admit that I did what she did at the beginning. I don't know why. I guess I just wasn't ready at the time, and I felt like my H was pretending that we were all great, when we weren't. I wanted to be touched like the OM touched me, and feel how I did with the OM, but I wanted it with my H and I wanted it to be real. It didn't feel real when he did it, and that didn't feel right. It took time, and it took me looking in that mirror of mine, it took me taking down that protective wall of mine, and it took faith.
I'm soooo glad your son is showing love to his mother. She needs that soooooooooooo badly from him after everything. As for her curt behavior. DOn't forget to say something to her when she does this. Over and over. If you were doing something that was stopping her from feeling love from you, you would want her to tell you, right?
I'm surprised she wasn't watching The Bachelor. It was quite an ending and recap.
