K, First, belated Happy Birthday. I've been so busy of late there's not even a spare second some days. My apologies. I see you are putting up quite a fight here.
Originally Posted By: Kalni
I read it again. I think it describes me, or used to describe me, more than it describes him
K, I'm so glad you set this one to rest. You are indeed brilliant! The bitter accusatory WAW thinking will try to get you on board too - don't fall for it - you have your own heart and mind. BTW Passive-Aggressive has been removed from the DSM-IV - it is no longer a "legitimate" LABEL except in the pop-psychology world. In simple terms it means that when people are confronted with something unpleasant they often either fight or withdraw rather than assert themselves in a positive way. And we are all like that at times.
Fb2, Hmmm, you sound a bit aggitated? I told you to trust my thinking process and you obviously didnt. Anyway, I havent met anyone that tried to get me on board on anything, at least I havent noticed something like that ...
Days are passing by slowly. I am trying to go bed earlier and smoke less (I know disgusting) and spend some more time with my kids cause they obvioulsy need me.
H hasnt contacted me since our last call. Yesterday I couldnt find my mobile and called my number to see where it was but accidentally dialed his (6 years same number). He picked up and I said "sorry,I thought I was dialing my number, misplaced my cell". An hour later I get a message :"did you find it?" I answered yes. Why do I mention this? Because it felt as he was trying to show me he cares. I know you think I am crazy but it was a clear gesture from his side to show me he is thinking of me. I am not naive, but trust me, that is what he meant.
I know he waits for Sat to see what we are talking about at the closure apt with the C. I am actually looking forward to that too. Have a good day everyone, K
Hey M, I hope you are having a better day yourself today. Things are so quiet for us old timers now. Essie, W2G, Mish, Michelle, T, Lisa, Addie, Purr, who else? All stopped posting, makes me feel a bit strange that I am still here! Still holding on. I agree with you over H texting back.. totally unnecessary for him to do that, so it shows he was thinking of you.
Why are you looking forward to the closure MC appointment?
gforce, mike, woog, stellaK (posts very little),even Jeff posts very little,lodo the same,Lan also hardly does anymore,my cousin John (busy dating)and sweet Rob,Lola... Al, I think we need to admit it and accept it. I once said I will become a dinosaur in posting, well guess what? I have become one and you & I are the only representatives of our species... K
Yes, but maybe thats because our partners did have an MLC.. you said on the last thread you now think he must have had an MLC (and certainly seems like his actions are to do with childhood issues, making him run from you) and I always believed my ex did and he has said so himself that he thikns thats what happened. And from the reading I have done, those sitches take a LONG time to pan out... also, I guess we do know that our ex's still care about us and miss us, which perhaps isnt the case with others who have fallen off the radar? Your H has even says that he loves you hey? My ex has not, but then, he has said he thinks about me all the time with ow, is confused, misses me etc. There just hasnt been any resolutoin or closure has there. I dont know when or even if I will ever get mine, but perhaps thats why you are looking forward to Saturday.
Personally, I blame Saturn going backwards in the sign of our 'other'..and now Venus is stopped and goes backwards tommorow to cause further delays. StrongMilWife is still hanging in here though and she is also a Piscean. I saw my Piscean BMF yesterday (havent spent time with him since December without his wife) and he gave me those eyes.. so he is still 'stuck' in that place too and I am sure other Pisceans are hey.
I wish this would hurry up for all of us, but I think we have a few months to go yet... sorry.
Yeah, I am still here and I know I will be here for the long haul. For right now, it feels like my situation is on hiatus. I had a rough day yesterday--one of those "Why am I doing this" days--and God smacked me in the head at church last night. We had a guest pastor and his service was on perseverance through the tough times and that God will reward the faithful that will stay in the game and fight the good fight. I guess that's us.
I do not know what is going on out on the big grey boat and do not know enough about the signs to try to figure it out. I am just loving your updates, Ali, as they just seem to reconfirm what God is already speaking to my heart.
I don't know if you ever drift by my thread, Ali, like Sunshine does, but I had posted something back before Christmas about my DH and why I will wait. Being a military spouse, I know the inherent risks of what my husband does, even though his is not an assignment that is exposed to obvious harm. Neither were the sailors aboard the USS Cole. But, I always knew, if something happened to my DH that I would be content to remain a widow for the rest of my life, because I have known true love in my marriage and would not want to try to replace it. So, you guys are stuck with me.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Well, it seems that my sitch is coming to an end. My H called and said he is meeting with the lawyer today and he wanted me to send him again the excel about the expenses. He still hasnt thought over joint custody because he is "not sure it is legal"? I tried to tell him that if we too agree on that, no court will say the opposite. He got upset and told me that "I should be able to wait until he asks the lawyer". When I asked for her number, he said he want first to talk to her.
My lawyer friend said we should be able to do it. The lawyer that I have been to (not a friend) said that isnt feasible. In Greece only one parent has to have custody and the way things are in his life, no court would give him custody. I am not sure she understood. Anyway, I have a meeting with her tomorrow.
We are ages behind what you guys are talking about parenting plans etc etc
Jeff, the way things are "settled" he is fine with. He sees them only when his job allows him to and he has no participation in any issues that arise. So, I believe he may want to keep things as they are because its EASY for him. I am mad and upset and feel like a fool. K
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