On the gift from her parents, two things from my perspective (rightly or wrongly):
1 - the $$ spent on the house renos are a non-issue in my books. Not unlike me funding all mortgage / maintenance / other house expenses for the last (at least) 9 years and the bulk prior to that.
2- the balance: I have no problem with maintaining the intention of the funds that her parents wished (that is, fot the k's) but W has shown that she looks after herself first. So I am concerned that if I say "yes, you can have that" she will use it and then still come back at me for funds for the expenses for which the cash was intended.
She has taken me for a ride already in the last 14 months (if not longer) so I am not sure I can get to any compromise. It is not a vindictive attitude, but I am fearful for the future.
As for custody, I am never taking that lightly. The good thing is we have been here before and she has to climb Mount Everest to get there. The kids have expressed their preference for 50/50 and at their age, that plays a large factor.
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No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
