Scared but ready #7

[2gthrButApart]

So he of course, as in every conversation, has to take the opposite view. And he's like, well there's two sides to every story.

I am very new to this site, and am trying to figure out my own M. But, what I'm learning from several different resources is that, you have to choose our battles wisely.
Why argue about something that can ruin your marriage but not heal it. My H is extremely sensitive about things lately, including his fam, but I'm learning to not fight over things that do not matter. That is the Cousin's M, their problem, don't bring it in to yours. Even if you feel you are 100% right, suck it up and say You know what, I think you're right. Maybe they do need someone on their backs until they break out of the laziness. Even if you don't 100% believe what you are saying, it shows your H that his opinion matters to you.

Sometimes when we are adament about an opinion we have the H takes it saying his opinion doesn't matter, or he is always wrong in our eyes and therefore he and his feelings don't matter to you.

I'm working on my M also, but several books and CD's that I have bought all state this in one way or another.

Choose your battles wisely, will this argument bring us closer or farther apart.

I hope I was a lil' helpful. Enjoy your day.