It's Not Like on T.V.

[Thinker]

I know just what you mean. I also feel like the more I do, the less respect my W has for me -- but at the same time, I can't abandon my responsibilities.

I have tried to rationalize it like this. I am going to do as much as I can to carry my share of the family responsibilities, and I am going to help her whenever she has reasonable requests, BUT I am going to take care of myself first. For example, I used to not go to the gym in the mornings because I wanted to make sure I was there to help my W get the kids ready for school. Now I go to the gym a couple of days a week - I just make sure she knows ahead of time so she can plan her morning.

It is still a challenge I admit, and as I also work from home I find myself feeling taken advantage of and resentful. Take care of yourself, but don't be rude.