I'm having a hard time advising you on this. I'm feeling very sorry for you and I think that your wife is lost right now. I'm afraid that I am going to speak from anger and give you the absolute wrong advice. I don't want to harm you any more than you already are or make your situation worse.
I'm hoping that someone who is better in these crisis moments will chime in. I'll keep reading so that I can learn as well.
