I don't know what to tell you as we all know that dealing with an A and marriage issues throws a whole new twist in it. Thanks for your words on my thread. You know exactly what its like.
Just keep on doing what you are doing. Keep YOUR boundaries and dont let him cross them unless you say so.
Hang in there.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!