Lucky -- I'm the primary child care person, so I can't avoid the house.
Another ????? What is THIS supposed to be all about?
In MC Session #1, among the bible-sized compendium of my flaws, failures, irritations, and general shortcomings (C said, "As I listen to you, I notice you haven't said a single affirmative thing about H") was the fact that I'm not a "true partner" or an 'equal.' She doesn't want anyone "needy." {Probably why she has OM, who is independently wealthy, successful businessman, etc.}
Because my job doesn't require a wardrobe, and because it can be done on "my time" (including from home), I have historically done most of the daily odds-and-ends, including dropping off/picking up W's dry-cleaning (her job DOES require wardrobe and requires time beyond the cleaners' operating hours).
How do I deal with this contradiction? On the one hand, I'm supposed to do these "little services" but on the other doing the little services has made me repellent to W.
So today I get, "Can you do me a favor and pick up my dry cleaning?"
So where's my choice? Say "no" to establish boundaries and be accused of being an a** or deliberately difficult by "just trying to make everything as hard as it can be" (a favorite), or say "yes" because I've done it all along but would therefore still be less of a partner?
