Just stop all the filings all the charges and whatever else. You go out there, Get A Life. Do things for you and for your kids. Then Act As If. Act as if all is well and this is just a bump in the road you both needed to hit so you can get your marriage back on track. It will make her crazy and curious at the same time.
Just stop all the filings all the charges and whatever else. You go out there, Get A Life. Do things for you and for your kids. Then Act As If. Act as if all is well and this is just a bump in the road you both needed to hit so you can get your marriage back on track. It will make her crazy and curious at the same time.
How do u act As If when you feel like your insides are in a knot, and when you think you have gotten past a point, but then you backtrack, and feel like you're back at square one. Like 3 wks of work, of DBing takes you 2 steps Fw, but 1 nite can knock you 10 steps back. KWIM??
M:28 H:30 DD-9| DD-7| Baby- Due 11/10 T-14 | M-8
10/08- Bomb 4/09- Failed attempt at Marriage Fitness Program 3/10- WH moved out. 7/10- Informed me he's filing in Aug
It sucks. It's hard but I know I'm seeing a pay off here. Last Christmas my H was saying often and always in some way the marriage was over. Now he makes no mention of the D word and is even flirting with me. He is starting to kiss me goodbye too. Don't get me wrong, we had a set back today, but the set backs are getting smaller. I still have TONS of questions from the friends here who've been here longer than me but it just sucks and you keep moving forward. If you Get A Life, that is just all around beneficial for you no matter what happens and the GAL helps with the Acting As If. Oh, and I'm down to 105 pounds. When my H left, I was about 123. So this has taken a toll on me, but I'm eating again now, and I feel much better about me and my life and where this may go. But yes, the knots suck. Keep DBing your A$$ off. I'll help you and you can help me.
Stillloveshim , I'm needing a miracle here . Cannot stop the divorce as at the point we're at she woyuld have to sign off to stop the proceedings and she declined to do so .
I think for the sake of your children and being able to tell them you fought as hard as you could take the steps to stop the filing. Tell her if she stops the divorce, you'll drop the charges. Fight her JB, fight her.
I tried that earlier in the game , she wants the divorce to go through . I think that she has put out her story of abuse and if she somehow went back with me that would make her out to be untrue . She painted a picture , executed a plan and now cannot back down . I do believe she is ashamed and must continue forward. Sometimes a person can get so far down the street that they cannot turn around .
Not true, you can always turn around. It's up to you to let her know that this was just a wall you hit together and in a weird way it was necessary. It made you both take notice of what was wrong and needed to be fixed. Let her know the bridges home are not destroyed and are perfectly safe to walk on. No one has to know what the two of you decide to do. No one has to live your life or her's and no one except the two of you will ever really know what happened.....and that's how it should be. Tell her you are going to stop the filing and drop the charges. Take action to show her you love her.
You'd make a good preacher . The problem is I cannot stop the divorce as she will not sign off . The affair is well known to all so everybody does know about that . She involved my family with tales of abuse then cut each one of them off after the 6/14 police action . They now know about the affair and see she was lying about abuse to get them to side with her concerning her leaving the marriage . What a tangled web we weave .....
Absolutely. Sounds like your wife is having a full out nutty. So let her have it. Let her know you aren't mad anymore and make sure if any of your loved ones run into her, they are NICE to her. If they are mean, that's just going to make her that much more resigned to moving forward with her crazy actions. I would make an awful preacher. I don't trust people who don't cuss, as I do it all the time.
