Ok, need some input here. This is the latest email from xBF:
The bank transfer failed again - I am having the money deposited into my account and then I will deposit it into the [bank] account myself - just let me know how.
I would like to come over Tuesday night (later if possible) and pick up some things and visit the kids.
I am just frustrated with him. He can go online to the bank's website and figure out how to make a deposit. I will give him the benefit of the doubt because it is does not have a local branch and he's never had an account there. Still, he's an intelligent person and should be able to figure this out on his own. He has the acct number and that's all he needs. Sheesh!
But how long is it going to take him to collect all his cr@p? I looked around the house when I got home, seems like everything is gone. Do I have the right to tell him take it all now because I'm done with his coming and going? And what does "later" mean? Is he trying to see me without saying that? I will be at dance classes 6:30-9. I really don't want to come home and find him waiting for me. Plus, he's never shown much interest in the cats before. I'm tired of him using them as an excuse to be here. Sigh.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
LOL {{{Pearl}}} your book story made me laugh out loud LOLOL!! You go ahead solidarity sister
Sounds like an interesting weekend and it IS interesting when you have to divvy up the friends isn't it?? It would be a lot to consider with your couple friends, esp with their relationship with your xbf and whether your info would get back to him..guess you could always test that theory with some random, non-true info and see if you hear about it
Good you got to have fun with your friend, who sounds like a great sounding board for you and that you had lots of girl time FUN to boot
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Well first of all, that deposit thing would be getting on my last nerve, as this has been going on for WEEKS now..I'd be grring along with you my friend on that one?!
As for the stuff, YES you have a right to say "please come get all of your crap on this visit as I am trying to move on and can't have you traipsing in and out of here"..ok so obviously not the way I just said it LOLOL..but yeah?!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Absolutely, you have every right to give him a final deadline for getting his stuff out. You don't have to be snotty about it, but can say something like "In order for me to be able to get closure emotionally, and for my own privacy, I'm sure you'd agree that we need to have this done. Please make sure that on _______ you can get whatever remains of your things, I would appreciate it."
As for the bank transfer, I'm still highly suspicious of him. Why don't you just ask him for a bank draft for the funds, and then you can go deposit them into your account? Why does this HAVE to be an electronic transfer?
The money problem and the cats - it's all a ploy. He doesn't want to let you go. In his own silly way he's trying to hold on.
Gucci is right. Do it all if you have to. He's dragging it out intentionally.
Stay strong.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
