Hi, I read your story and my heart is truly with you. I have little understanding how a man can leave his home, wife, kids. How he can say cruel things and behave this way. No respect. By the way I don't think that he has an affair, he would otherwise quit ML to you. I am fighting for my marriage for over two years and here is what I can say: 1) Do not analyze and think of details, how did your H smiled or exact words he said. It is not so important. Important are relations and they are not defined by words. 2) It may be fearful, even to think that he may leave you. But in this situation you may actually benefit from the separation. I would tell him that he may move out at his will and do whatever he wants. Whenever he wants he may come back, have a meal play with kids, but no ML. Time will pass, may be a year or two. Then if your relations were healthy they will be restored and he will be back. If you try to hold him he may never realize how important are you for him. Give him this chance. 3)From the style of your letter I believe that you are a great wife and mother. However my good advice is to consider seriously what you can improve about yourself. I, for example, changed a lot in the past two years. 4) Treat him friendly, but with dignity. Do not accept a verbal abuse from him. Art I-37 W-35 D-4 Separated since 10/2006
