Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[sandi2]

Of course, now that I have been reminded of my true sitch, I am

once again feeling desperate, clingy, controlling, etc etc.

I felt bad because while she was out (and I saw that the card was gone and knew what was happening) my sons were interrupting me and I lashed out at them. They don't deserve that.

I really need to work on detaching more, but am finding it really really really hard.

Thinker, I wrote a post to Rzrbkfan today. I would say the same thing to you, so do me the favor of not having to retype everything and jump over to his thread and read what I wrote to him on how he is allowing his W to dictate his phyaical and emotional feeling. In other words, LBH's have that in common b/c you all are so focused on your WAW that whatever she says or whatever she does, or does not do that day.....it determines how you will feel. Why don't YOU make that determination for yourself? You will when you stop focusing on your W and focus on your life. As long as you are wrapped up in every word and deed she does, you are going to feel drained, depressed, and exhausted.

Sandi