Hope you have a great time at Benehanas!!! I love that place!!!! We have a resturant similar in my neighborhood and the food and atmosphere is awesome.
It sounds like you are doing great and I'm pleased to see that you are being firm about the money issue. This will be important if you do eventually end up in court. Make sure you keep careful track of all expenses, save receipts, etc...
I know exactly what you mean about not wanting divorce, but wanting to be educated and prepared for any possibility. I think that's wise.
Hang in there!!! You are doing great.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
