ST and Ellie - thank you both. And, thanks for knowing the emotion was really raw and I needed to vent.
Their first counseling session is tomorrow. My brother said he flips between rage and a tiny glimmer of possibly wanting to work it out. I can't tell for sure but it sounds like she wants to work on things, especially since she set up the MC. He's hoping that he's in "glimmer" not "rage" mode when they get there, he said. I hope so too. Whether or not they decide to work on the M, rage mode won't be too helpful for anyone.
I realize that sounds funny considering my last post was pretty darn full of anger... but I also recognize that's not helpful and I have to do my best to let it go.
In positive news... I haven't gotten together with friends in way, way too long, and a few of us are meeting for happy hour tomorrow night. Should be fun.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
glad you are seeing those feelings and knowing what feelings are important to act on, or not.
I would suggest that even though you think your brother will push the book aside, what will hurt. If he won't read them anyways, giving him the book won't do anything worse.. but what if he DOES take a look at it out of frustration and needing understanding. You don't even have to tell him why he should read it, but that you wanted him to have it and he could choose to read it if he wants.
that's just my opinion. It is nice to hear that she scheduled MC, and what's scary is that he could go in there like you said with major anger issues and all glimmers will be gone. Hopefully he is able to allow himself to understand.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Just wanted to say hi. I have to find some time to catch up on your sitch. Hope you're doing well.
{{{{{Nik}}}}}
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Found you KML!!... am back in Southern Cal and h is joining us...anyhow, wanted to catch up so if you get on these boards do so please.
(Sorry for the hijack)
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
