I answered you on my thread. I think you can also look at is setting the ground work for a divorce if it comes to that. Like I said ex wouldn't even consider it because I wanted him to work on M if he was going to keep everything status quo.
I would say do what you need to so that you and the kids are protected.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory