I know how you feel re: wanting H to make the next move. I was that way with xBF and leaving the house and ending the R. If he wants it so badly then he should be the one to do it. But it came down to protecting myself emotionally and realizing that he's a big coward so I made the move. I think you were absolutely right to do the same thing. You need to focus on protecting yourself from any more of his ridiculous behavior.
I don't have any pointers on the L questions but will be following along so I know what to expect when I go through it.
Keep up the good work!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
