Maybe take a new approach with him. Maybe you need to change the game because basically, I feel like we're waiting for him to make some grand gesture and THEN you'll react to it, whatever it may be. So how about you switch it up and keep him in the reaction mode and you continue to be proactive. What do you think? Maybe text him back and say something completely friendly. Maybe before every interactiong with him you ask yourself "How would I treat my friend in this situation?" Or "What would I say to my very good friend in this conversation?" And treat him 100% like your good friend, not best friend, but good friend. If he were your good friend and you knew he was having a bad day you would text him what? I would probably say "Hey, I'm having such a great day I can give you some of my mojo to make yours better! As a matter of fact, I'm going to send you a blank text but it'll be full of good mojo!" Then do it, send him another blank text full of mojo and then follow it up with, "Feeling better? I hope so." He is after all, the father of your children and if you really want him to think you are over him, you would really wish him the best. So maybe it's time to Act as If?
I agree 100% and that is why I killed my Facebook page. My H and I were "battling" on there using our status updates. It was stupid. So I ended the battle.
mmmmmmmm I still feel that Facebook and MySpace are no good...sorry just my opinion of course, but nothing good seems to come of it....
Your right Cinders....nothing good comes from it. But really he shouldnt be looking and assuming everything on it is about him.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
You know stillloveshim, I did do that earlier. I texted him and said that His day would get better and maybe he would get off early. I actually find myself doing that whenever he seems down. I try to make him feel better. I have always done that. And we have never really used myspace to fight each other, I kinda just put everyday statements and he assumes something from it most times, which makes me laugh sometimes. I hardly ever look at his because at one time i did and it made me so angry over somthing that wasnt about me....so I just stopped looking. I may only look once in a great while. and he doesnt do FB...
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I know I'm the one in the family that does all that crap. If it weren't for me, no one would get a gift or card from us and there's so much that would not get done. And it's not that my H is stupid or lazy, but he liked letting me deal with all of that. I know women can multi-task better than men and I think he knows that too.
yeah, the Facebook got to be too much for me. I got out. I may return because I do miss "seeing" my friends but I'm not ready just yet. I'm glad you sent him a nice text. That's what you should do if you're acting as if you are cool with the status quo. Good move.
thanks stillloveshim.....honestly though I thought on fb they couldnt see anything on your page unless they were a friend? So, why not go back to it and put a pic up there he wouldnt know? Then you can see all your old friends again. He wouldnt be able to find you would he?
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
You are right about that, you have to be "friends" to see each other's pages. I'm just not ready. I don't have the restraint you do to not look and I would want to first thing in the morning to see what his status is, what his mood is, who posted on his page, what they posted, etc. It's just too much for my little heart right now. But I read in a book recommended by my DB coach, men are not able to multi task like we can so we are the ones who end up doing all of that stuff for them and us and everyone really. What did he say to your Cheer Up text?
lol, he was kinda sarcastic....said "U just keep having a good day". Well, I felt he was being that way...He is down today. I have learned to notice he tries to bring me down too when he is like that. I find myself however reacting in a different way...puts me in a better mood...lol.
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Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
