Hey Faith....you said: "Perhaps we should just move on...try again...and learn...and pass what we know onto our kids so that they can hopefully avoid the tragedy that we have all passed/are passing through."
Hmm....well yes, of course we should try to educate our kids on "how not to do what mom and dad did wrong, and only do what mom and dad did right". But I have two grown kids and have personally found by experience that, (ahem), THEY are always right and THEY already know what mom and dad did wrong and THEY will do it right even if we don't teach them. (cough) Which is code for, they will not listen to you no matter HOW wise you have become through your own mistakes.
On the other hand, if some college professer were to teach them the facts and data, THEN they would listen, because that person is not their parent who dragged them through a divorce (speaking for myself).
The point I'm making is that, I still opt for a FORMAL way of teaching young people in a FORMAL classroom setting, versus just "mom's wisdom by the seat of my pants" type of thing. The seat of the pants is great for some bits of knowlege and the kiddos will truly listen with eagerness. But once we cross into the marriage/divorce territory, then I am imposing on THEIR reality which they do not want to be told how things "are" or "were" or "should have been", because they KNOW. Catch me? That's just my opinion.....
