Trying flirting on for size!

[ACJ]

And so it goes on.

D13 sent me a TM earlier on this afternoon asking what time I would be home so I was optimisitic that this sh*t might all be over. I couldn't have been more wrong.

When I actually did leave work I rang her to let her know the boss had held me up and I would be later than I said. She told me she was going ice skating with H, OW and S16 (and poss his GF I don't know) and that she was staying over at Hs again. I did my best to keep my cool on the phone but she detected the sadness in my voice and commented on it.

When I got home she was here with two male friends of hers. She knows she isn't to have boys in her bedroom but that's where they were. I called her down. She came down and the first thing I did was give her a hug. I then asked her who was here and she confirmed what I thought. I gently reminded her that she wasn't supposed to have boys in her bedroom and she practically laughed in my face.

I then told her that I had no problem with her seeing her dad but I didn't understand the need to stay the night again. She said she just wanted some space for a while and she would continue to stay as many nights as she wanted.

I damned if I do and damned if I don't.

I tried talking to H again explaining by encouraging her to stay all the time was preventing me from acting like a responsible adult and tackling her about her behaviour at the weekend. He said I needed to discuss it with her. I told him I had but that I needed him to back me up and that when he came to pick her up I wanted him to come in and discuss it with us both. He refused. I asked him why he was refusing and he hung up on me.

I sent him a TM telling him that the least he could do was be supportive like I had over S16. I asked him why he couldn't be civil and what was he afraid of.

I asked D13 what she was doing about food as I thought she would want to eat before she went out. She informed me that she would be eating with H later.

I feel like between them they are squeezing me out of my own family. The harder I fight the worse it gets. I REALLY need some good advice here as I'm going stir crazy with worry.