Stay calm. Especially during the MC session. Try to avoid turning that into a bashing session or fight. If she says something truly unacceptable, state calmly that you understand where she is coming from, but you disagree. I repeat try to understand, validate and acknowledge her feelings. Never disagree with her feelings. They are what they are. Also, if your C starts to attack her, try to take her side.

You primary goal is to get her to come to a second session (as long as it goes well). Good luck!


M43 W45, M17
S9 D6
Bomb: 11/11/08
EA: 10/26-12/31/08 ?
Retrouvaille: 2/13-2/15/09
Healed, but still heading for D
My situation