I can see why you would not get any help for her relatives (even in-laws) b/c they have to live with the family and her even if they think you are telling the truth. Plus, they are embarrased for the family "name" if it gets out about her actions. I know how it is to be "associated" by the family name and embarrased about something they have done, so it isn't something too many people will stand by the side of you (the outsider, so to speak) and go against her.
I also had depression after my first baby was born and tried to leave my H when she was about a year old. I did not realize what it was, but like your wife, I blamed it all on my H. I knew I wasn't happy, but I thought it was b/c of him. It can last a lot longer than I realized.
I know you have a lot of anger and I don't think anyone blames you, but I am wondering if you really want this woman back for your wife, even if she were to make things right. Do you believe that you still love her and could feel the way you should toward her after all that has been done? What goes down in that courtroom will probably destroy any hopes of a future between the two of you. Understand.....I certainly do not blame you for trying to get custody of your little girl.
If things go in your favor, I think I would move out of that neighborhood! I hate that things have to get so ugly, but it seems that it will go that way unless you can make her believe you have enough proof to shame her family b/c of her wayward behavior......plus lose custody of her daughter. Anyway, sure hope that it will turn out okay. I feel so sorry for your sons. I know a young man who experienced something like that and it was not good. You would do wise to get the Pastor to talk to them, or a counselor.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
