You have so much support here. Robx and so many other people are so right on all of this. I finally read through every post on your sitch. Our issues are really close like you said. The only thing that is different is our living and financial sitch.
I so wish I had received the advice and care given to you a month ago. Things between my W and I may not be different, but I would be in a better spot.
Listen to them as much as you can. I've finally gone dark, wish I had done it earlier. I have to see her today to meet with the mediator and sign the papers. It sucks, but what can I do. If she wants out that bad, and wants to throw away 12 years without even making an effort to salvage the R, she deserves to live without me.
I like the old post about telling her about not being friends. I plan on doing that in about a month or so. I have every intention of not communicating with her about anything for at least that long.
It's time to man up. Screw what she wants bro. Go get what you want. I know you want her back, you said so on my post. I want my W back too. Yet, both of our W's are being totally selfish people right now. Heck, why can't we? Why can't we take care of ourselves? We're so dang hung up on them that's why!
I'm not saying give up..... not by any means. I'm just gonna look after myself in all this. If we wind up Divorced, then that's just how it is. It's gonna happen anyway if we keep pursuing..... right?
I know who that guy was when he was a little cocky and didn't really give a squat. I know you know who he is too. He is Mr. Confidence. Build up your self esteem, stand up for what's yours.... he'll come back bro.
