FIB - I haven't ever posted to you before, so hello, nice to meet you!
You said: Should something be changed with regards to who, when or how one gets married or divorced?
Actually I have always wished and hoped that there could be a marriage curriculum in colleges. Basically, nearly everyone gets married, and yet, nearly no one is ever given any data on what makes a good marriage, what causes divorce, how to "know" if this person you are thinking of marrying is really your "one" or not....I mean really, why do we allow our young adults to get married with literally zero knowledge given them, first?
So a whole course work on "marriage knowledge" should be part of all degree programs. This should also include courses on sexuality and sex within marriage, faithfulness and what causes infidelity, etc. Then there is how to handle disputes, in-laws, family crises, etc. And very important information would also include giving these young people an understanding of how physiology works in regard to feeling in love, so that they may understand that this feeling they are having does not necessarily mean they should let it lead them to a church.
If young people could be given a lot of dismal but necessary facts before they ever get near an alter, maybe they would think twice, wait a little longer, and make a more informed decision. Maybe there would be less divorce if we made informed choices. If we made marriage choices like informed consumers, I think marriage would stand a better chance.
That's just my two cents. I don't think the institution is outdated at all...I just think that many of us (especially those of us who ended up divorced) marry very young, to the wrong person, for the wrong reasons.
