She had even commented about if I will really keep doing these 2 things or is it short lived. If I stop now, doesn't that reinforce this is a temporary change?
If she has made the inquiry and it is a 180 for you, I say keep doing it. Look for other ways to give her space.
Detaching does not mean cutting off your feelings for her, it means not being emotionally dependent on her to be happy. It is probably a new thing for you (it sure is for me) but you can love her and still be strong enough not to be affected by her in negative ways.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
