Did you read my last post? A "real man" doesn't smooth out the red carpet to let his woman pursue sex with other men. It's not your job to make it easy for her to go have fun. She's not looking for just sex, by the way. It's not like wanting a slice of chocolate cake. She wants external validation that she's wanted, chosen, loveable. You can give her those things if you fight and work through the s**t.
What did you do in your marriage that allows you to sit here and actually contemplate being her doormat? Fess up.
