I dunno if I can explain myself well enough but here goes. My H and I have never stepped into a MC office. Oops take it back once and it did tell me he was as serious about fixing our R problems as I was and that was it. That was ages ago. So after OW and him telling me he was done? None no conseling what so ever. Counselors if they are not solution based may also hurt your M more than help it. Anyway...
Thru much trial and error? I like to be taken and ravashed too. And never wanted to come off looking like a whore either. My H took me and ravished me w.o the "fear " of hurting me. It was so delicious I cannot begin to describe. But it took much talking to get to this point. And also if I dont act like a "whore" with Hubby? Then why would he veer dare act like a caveman with me? Kwim?
I am not saying go "crazy" on the guy , but you are both going to have to find a way to find that balance. If I am acting like a delicate flower most of the time? My H never "knew" or gave himself permission to F*kc my brains out. I am too classy for that.
If he likes GGW wild and he can get off by imagining being ravished? I agree with DQ~ I am an optimist too~ There may just be a caveman deep inside your hubby. By all means take a break if you both need too. But do not sit there with "NICE". Too long.... Find a way to keep talking , w/o seeming like the sex police. And also keep things light and fun and keep connected.
