everyone says no R while there is OW, its true but I think a spouse can decide they want to be home while embroiled with OP. It takes a while for them to get there but at least they have that goal so to speak in their minds?
My H obviously wanted to be in the sanctuary of his home while he finished the major part of his crisis. YR's did too he just kept getting scared and went back to OW just in case it didnt work out? But he kept coming home to try and get it right. My H went back to OW in the R sense but didnt leave home....but he was afraid and wanted that fall back plan...stupid men
He kept feeling unwelcome, I think that was guilt playing into it. I was so trying not to put pressure on him those first 6 months. Maybe I did swing too far the other way?
YR does that make any sense?
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
