It does sound as if he really needs you around as a some kind of security. When you were married and all was well to normal, who was "in charge"? And I mean, who did the bills, organized where everyone needed to be and how they were going to get there, did the shopping, planned family outings, vacations, etc? Was it you? Or was it split down the middle? Or did it depend? In my family, it's more me. I would say it's an 80% me and 20% him breakdown. I believe my H knows that and it's one of the reasons he's still around. Which I'm ok with, it's a legitimate concern...something to be considered.
