Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

Well the drama wagon is still in motion. *sigh*

My dad called last night and wanted to see how things were going. I told him I was feeling fine and that my W and MIL had left just today. He has pretty much always had a soft spot in his heart for my W, so I expected him to show some heavy sympathy for her. I haven't spoken to her about the details of our sitch, but when I casually mentioned that I was over the bulk of devastation of finding out about her EA, he remarked, "Well, it isn't as though you haven't been through this before." I was confused. I said no, I haven't had to deal with this before. He paused and then told me "I thought you knew..."

*BAM* She had a PA on me 12 years ago when we moved into our first house! I never even knew it, but at the time my W was really good friends with my Sis and she would come over to our house every day while I was at work. Two houses down from us at the time there was a family with about 8 kids ranging in age from 16 to 2 months. The 16 year old was always over at our house, even though our oldest was only 6 at the time. I thought it was because we had a big screen and a Super Nintendo.

Anyway, the 16yr old was pretty geeky, but he had a friend (also 16 or 17) that my W thought was pretty hot. She had sex with him one day while I was at work. She called my sis later crying saying she thought she might be pregnant by him, or maybe that she might have gotten an STD from him and that she would have to tell me, but she never did.

I was floored! It seems my mom, dad, and sister all knew about this for years! They thought that I knew about it because she had said that she was going to tell me about it. All of her constant assertions that she is a "good" girl and that she would never take her clothes off for anyone else just went right out the window. This betrayal taints almost all my good memories with her since this happened at a time in or M where things were good and getting better.

That she was able to keep this a secret for 12 years has me stunned. I am finding that I really don't know this woman that I have been married to for all these years...