I'm so glad I inspired you, that makes me really happy. You helped me BIG TIME with the house/ finances, I couldn't have done it without you.
I worked on all the figures for the bills for ages and designed a spreadsheet and stuff for myself which I sent him so it was clearly laid out. Also, just to add, I didn't let him off the bills, he stopped paying... all of them, even the ones he is supposed to pay (joint credit cards, life insurance and the like) and started spending the money I was putting in there for bills. But I know what you mean
I think I have been living under denial. He left for no real/ good reason, and believe me I have looked and looked, self evaluated etc for about a year and a half. There are things I could have handled differently yes, and I have learnt/ am learning a very hard lesson. It is the next stage of life that counts for me now.
May 08 was when I found out they had gone on holiday together and I had definite proof, however for some bizarre reason still refused to believe it of him. Realistically I know he went away with her at New Year 07/08 and to her parents in Ireland in March 08. I think I would be naive to think that it hadn't been going on for some time before that. Before he left he wouldn't ml (I thought this was somehow my fault), detached from me (again I blamed myself), seemed to be ok with everyone in the office having affairs where as before he hated it etc etc, plus his Dad told me in Dec 07, I just wouldn't believe him. I'm wisening up and realising that there are some things in life you can't control and you also live and learn.
I can't wait to share with you my ideas for the next stages of my life. They are in the formulation stage at the moment but they are scary, different and way out of my comfort zone. I love it!!
