Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[2gthrButApart]

Regarding this commment: They will do whatever it takes to justify their actions...and that does include built up anger. One of things that got me for a loop was my wife bringing home angry from her other relationship and letting it go here. It took a long time for me to realize what it was, but it is there. Another odd thing with her anger was that as I accomplished 180's, especially with my children, she would become very resentful. So with the knowledge from the board I built up an internal wall to help in reacting to these actions.

What about when they are acting very frindly, and we are getting along better than we have in a loooong time. But he still says we are over, and he definitely wants a D?? (We live in the same house, same bed, and he hugs me all nite long???)