A Navy Wife's Creed

[FaithfulH]

I still get sad, but I do not wallow in self-pity. I am thinking that sadness is okay given my circumstances, but most of the time I am happy and content in the Lord and his blessings.

StrongWife,

The "ah-ha" moment for me came when I finally realized that I relied almost 100% on my W's view of me to determine my self-worth. So, when our marriage went into the pooper....my self-image went with it. When I rightly turned to God for that role, several things happened:

• I got a true picture of who I was in the eyes of the Lord
  
• I was able to directly act on God's plan for my future unfiltered by my w's thoughts and ideas
  
• It free'd up my wife from a burden she never should have had to carry
  
• Our marital growth could begin anew

My W told me after our restoration...."You know, FaithfulH....on judgement day, we won't stand together before our Lord....we are called to stand individually". I agree with her and believe only AFTER we get right with God individually can we begin the work of restoring our marriages.

You have been doing this work for awhile, so.....this may be for others more than you, StrongWife.....