keeping my sanity

[PositivelyMommy]

Hi Hope, I am so sorry you are feeling so down and feel so bad that your H is lost in his own mess.

Hope, I read somewhere that it's not what happens to you that determines whether you are sad or happy or whatever, but how you react to it. Maybe this is something that you have to go through to make you into the person that you were meant to be. Maybe you will have wonderful days ahead of you. I know it is extremely upsetting to think that our H can just chuck everything away at the drop of a hat. But you and I KNOW that their actions will NOT make them happy. They are inherently UNHAPPY, that is why they are acting this way. They are doing everything differently to fix their unhappiness. Destructive behaviors.

But we have a choice here also, we can act like victims or we can act like survivors. Which do you want to choose? I am struggling everyday, like you, I choose to see myself as a survivor. I cannot save my H, but I can save myself.

Hope, I know it's very hard to see light when you are in the depth of darkness. But I want to share with you, there is a light. It is ALWAYS darkest before light. You WILL come out of this stronger and become the person you were meant to be. You WILL survive.