Well, she refuses to ask her doctors about it, and her mother refuses to admit there is a problem or that there could be a problem. When I told her mom I knew about her cutting her wrists, etc. back in high school her mom said "That's just what kids do nowadays."

My wife went to her OBGYN recently, but that was just for her regular checkup. I asked if she'd been screened for depression and she acted like her blood work was enough. I told her there wasn't a blood test, that she'd need to talk to someone professional about it.

And yes, the pastor knows her because she works at the church and has since 2005. The pastor is honestly surprised at what I've told him, but she puts on a completely different face at work. She acts happy, etc. - but then around me or when she sees my boys she acts depressing.

I've been told "I don't have post-partum depression and I wish you'd quit saying it." multiple times by W. I told her that she definitely has acted depressed and she says "If I am depressed it is because of you." I try saying well if she is depressed I want to see her get whatever help she needs and I'll support her 100% - but she just blows me off.

Her mom is like an ostrich, she just sticks her head in the sand and wants to ignore any problems. W says she wants a divorce so m.i.l. cuts a check and throws up her arms and says it is the lawyer's problem now. W is the perfect wife and I'm a horrible husband, etc. so I'm not getting any help from her family at all.

They are more interested in 'protecting' her from having her problems exposed than actually solving her problems.

"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."