So I am moving to a new home! I have been in the separated forum up to now. A quick recap of my sitch is in my signature. My STBXH is living with his gf who he started seeing before he left me in October 2007. Here is a link to my previous thread.
I have been DBing since May 2008 but he seems hard and fast stuck in this new/ not-so-new-now relationship and I have come to the conclusion that even if he did realise the error of his ways and realise what he has lost in me I can no longer be there. A part of me still cares about him and always will but I need to let go to move on. It is doing me no good mentally, I tend to obsess, and I need to put this behind me. Try as I might I have been going down the friendship route and it has been working however it does me no good in terms of moving on and letting go to keep having hope and seeing him.
I have been looking at my life and making some decisions and have taken some steps.
- I have 'defriended' his sister and best friends from FB so I can no longer spy on activity with ow. - I have made a list of things that I have always wanted to do but felt I gave up on those dreams to be married and have a house/ mortgage. I am selecting things and starting planning/ doing them. - I emailed h and addressed our financial issues as I had been afraid of rocking the boat in the past. He has not contributed to our joint responsibilities for 3 months now and small amounts kept disappearing from the joint account such as meals, theatre tickets etc as well as a loan payment he seems to have set up. Instead of accusing him of anything I have just stated that I think it is time we closed that account and suggested that he pay me the sum of money (which is a very small amount!) each month direct to my bank account and I will be responsible for the bills.
I'm taking my head out of the sand and moving forward. I'm excited about what my life will hold and am taking myself out of limbo! So... anyone fancy joining me for a drink?
So... anyone fancy joining me for a drink?