StrgMarvelousWmn,

Thanks. I am sad to say those 8 years of catholic school and then watching the people in church cheat on their spouses, steal and lie during the week and then think that if they went to church everything would be erased... kind of left a bad feeling in me toward the church. I always figured god was watching me he knows what I do. I did not realize that I was judging the other people going to church and not just leaving that to God and just go there to take care of my own business.
I am not "back yet" but I am getting there. I have been tested over and over with the lose of my first wife to drugs.. the lose of my leg in a car accident..the lose of a baby with my current wife. I always took care of myself though. Never once asked for help....until now.

Some new stuff happened tonight. Nothing really big but a change no less. Wife asked me if I would go fill her car up with gas tonight. It is windy and raining here and she was too tired to do it after work. I said Sure..(Extra credit on dare 11 I think)
Anyway this is a change because for the longest time wife would not ask me to do anything for her. She wanted NOTHING to do with me. She did not want to show any "dependence" to anyone. Last time she asked me to do anything for her was about a year ago when she was real sick for about a month. She asked ME to wash her hair for her in the sink. (I was in heaven.. Closest thing to sex we had in a long time .. I got to touch her .. Ok it was just her head but still ...)
Dare 13 is going to be a wash...

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs. If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.

We don't argue but in the book were some examples of "fair engagement" so I will abide by them..

Well got to go Thanks for stopping by. I wonder if I am just using up space here sometimes or if people are really following along and just don't post..
I hope I am doing someone good somewhere
remember....

NEVER LEAVE YOUR PARTNER BEHIND

Doc

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know