I'm no authority here, but have a few words to say. First of all, as some others have already pointed out....do NOT trust her family of her in-laws to stick by you before they do her. Don't tip your hand at anything. Second of all, what does your Pastor think about her change of behavior? Did he know her before she had the baby and her dad passed away? Are you concerned about what she may do when all of this is over......if she has a metal problem? I am just wondering about what you said how she reacted to her friends death and tried to kill herself, or does she always act that dramatic about everything? Didn't that seem odd for a Christian to want to cut her wrists? I am trying to put it all together and why she changed so suddenly after her baby was born and the death of her father. If depression runs in the family or if she has had a problem with it during her life.....it seems to me that she is walking on dangerous ground. I would be concerned that she would have a complete mental breakdown. I know that you must protect your children first of all, and I am not finding fault with what you are doing. Just kind of thinking out loud. Was she ever diagnosed with postpartum depression? If she had that on top of losing her father, that could have really messed her mind up. Depression is a terrible thing. Suffering the loss of a loved one is terrible. Postpartum depression is awful, but if you put all of those together, you need a doctor and a Pastor in a serious way, fast. I did not see where you mentioned if she had received any medical help after the birth of the baby of the loss of her father, so I wondered how she dealth with the depression after you said what you did about her friend and her reaction to that.

Anyway, best of luck to you. Wish I could help.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!