Dropping the rope

[peacetoday]

I think I am getting the hang of this
I am dim now
I dont call--he hardly calls

for business-I am a good professional secretary
I do my job--no chit chat and hardly see H at work
I come after he leaves

when he takes kids-I stay upstairs-
he calls me down sometimes..I go for a brief second answwr his question and excuse myself

This makes sense to me--all that time 2years- I DB well I spent lots of time laying a foundation
I validated him. I listened I was a good friend--He was not, just a liar
Now
I am nothing except a stbxw
maybe he will feel the loss --maybe not

I have to let go emotionally, I am still holding on
not sure for what
He shows NO signs of wanting to return --no signs at all

So I think I am doing the right thing by becoming scarce
I can always restart our friendship again later
He wants that



I notice that as I detach, H comes less to see kids
always lies to them and has excuses
he is averaging 2x a week visits from 4x a week
I have to accept that as well
and practice moving on
hoping it will get easier to let him really GO
Any thought sppreciated??
Peace