My W expected me to be a mind reader too. She said I should have seen the signs. Who controls the finances in the house? Does your H know about all the expenses? I know the feeling of helplessness you feel now. I feel like my life is on hold. Some of the best advice you'll get here is to take care of yourself first. You need to respect yourself too, and don't fool yourself into thinking you're being ML to. Make sure it's not going just one way.
