Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[sandi2]

Oh, I have been getting people's ages mixed up here lately.

Well, that is frustrating about the IC when they just sit there and listen and don't do anything to help! Anybody can sit and listen, right? It sounds like she may need to see into finding somebody that will do more for her b/c I think she needs some serious assistance before she goes over the edge. I think she has had all she can take. Even if she isn't 23, having three kids hanging on to you and going through what she has with her parents is too much for most people. Adding the M problems to that, and you've got a tragedy waiting to happen. Not trying to scare you, but I feel the urgency to get help ASAP! I don't know if she will accept it from "you" or not since she has hard feelings toward you, but somebody needs to try to get her to somebody soon. Her only way of handling this is escape, but the escape route she is taking is not working, so she may look for another means of escape, which could be a number of avenues, but none good. I'm afraid of how desparate she will soon become and how she will respond to that desparation. Maybe I'm selling her short and she may be much stronger than I'm giving her credit for. But she has been through a lot and is still going through it. Maybe I've asked this before, but is there anyone that could help with the kids to give her some relief there? I know they feel needy toward her b/c of them all on her at once and calling out to her, but if they had somebody they felt comfortable with and safe with......it might help her out a bit. I think I asked you about your folks.....I better go back and read the posts again.....I'm forgetting things..... Anyway, even if I forget, I do care and wish I knew the answers to your problems. I do see it as serious and don't mean to sound over dramatic, but think it needs to be seen as it is.

Please stay in touch as often as you can b/c I do care a lot and will keep you in my prayers.

Sandi