Positives Round-up Roping in a new R

[sage]

So while I hate that damn phone and it is my arch enemy, I no longer let my fear of it's misuse own me. The BIG difference now is that my H leaves the phone out where I can see it and he's invited me to check it whenever I feel I need to in order to feel secure that it is no longer being used by anyone of whom I would not feel safe...that reassurance and invitation alone (although no real assurance since #s can be convienently deleted) has made me less intolerant of it.

T2 -- You've obviously come to a wise place regarding the phone. Kudos, too to your h for making it much more open...

I realized yesterday (after reading your thread) that one of the reasons I struggle during the week is because then I'm communicating with h via email and phone....see, that's the way most of the later stages of his a. were carried out....the way I found out about the a. was a series of emails from ow to h (some obviously in response to him).

So...everytime I get an email from h I find myself harkening back to the mails from ow. Was she more interesting, did he respond to her quicker, etc? They also used to IM...we've never done that...he's never even shown any interest....whatever.

His email account remains private...always will be I suppose! But, to his credit, he HAS been much more open about reading it when I'm in the room. He also occasionally forwards emails from it (just from friends) or will read me stuff aloud...babysteps, babysteps....

anyway, I LOVE Shiny's idea of "reclaiming" stuff. I'm taking back emails. hahahahahahaha.

Sage

PS Congrats on the new events and the new thread!