On a personal note (and isn't it all) I find it appalling how easy it is for W to just take a match and lighter fluid to all the respect, trust, etc. she built up among my family the past 5 years. My Grandmother gave her some jewelry that belonged to her own mother, my aunt always bought new outfits, etc. for her every time they went shopping, and when we drove to visit - they were always shopping buddies and had a great time running the malls together.
Now, W acts like she could care less, doesn't want them to ever see D(1), and is basically just being a controlling manipulative piece of trash. It does make it so much easier to detach, but the more this goes on the less I'm going to want the M back.
Most likely outcome if she doesn't come back to me with true remorse and horror at her own actions is that we fight this through and I don't even want to be her friend. She should be ashamed.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
